Love IS

Love is… a lot of things! Jesus loved us perfectly even while we were still sinners He died for our sins so we could have a relationship with our Heavenly Father and be with Him in eternity. For us mere mortals where we are not perfected yet, love can be tricky. Love is not about getting everything perfect or being perfect or expecting others to be perfect! Love the ones your with! And if they are, or if you are… ever unlovely, give or ask for forgiveness and move on. Life is too short to hold onto un-forgiveness or bitterness.

I have been crazy busy with another international move and our family has become extremely close. I think giving each other grace for our unlovely moments helps. There has been a lot to do and there still is a lot to do but God has really held us close as we transitioned into new communities and ministries. I am learning to understand that God hasn’t called me to watch life pass by in a safe and easy way being able to live in one place. He has called our family to participate and live life to the full in Him. Often we have to move to where ever He leads us in the world. God calls each one of us differently and some He calls to live in one place all their lives and be of great value and service to their community. (I hope one day He will call us to live in one place!) For our family for the time being we have been asked to move around the world. I don’t find change easy I find it stressful and my autoimmune diseases flare up and I have all that drama to deal with. I guess when you move there are a lot of challenges but there is also joy. There is the delight of seeing how God stretches our faith to solely rely on Him. It is exciting and fun getting to know new people. There are a million other things to be grateful for. Anyhoo, I just wanted to quickly write something since I have been M.I.A. for so long. I will pop by Living in Grace now and again. To all those who have written beautiful notes to me I want to say how thankful I am that you would be so kind as to think of me and my family. I will reply to you all individually (now that we have the internet up and running). Hope you are having a great day where ever you may be in the world! ~ Sarah

Law Of Love – Deuteronomy


Don’t you love doing bible study with a group of women who LOVE to learn, be renewed and be transformed through God’s word!!! Beth explains how God has given us a land of promise here on earth not just in eternity! And how it is never to late to claim and live in your promised land. If you have missed any of our Beth’s bible studies or just want to re-listen to them on your own at home I have YouTube links for Session 1, 2 and 3 for you below. Of course if you wish to purchase Beth’s studies please click HERE
~ Blessings Sarah xxx




A friend has been battling in this world of late and needed some encouragement so I though I’d put pen to paper OR fingers to iPad and write about our conversation a little.

The big question was; when do nasty people become nasty and how could she deal with a particular situation? Would you consider a nasty person to be your friend or foe? I’m not going to mince words or pretend life is a fairytale. Because life can be hard sometimes and people can be mean. Yup, this can even be a co-worker, or a Christian person, or a friend, or perhaps one of your well meaning (or not so well meaning) family members. When does hurtful, cruel, gossip and mean-ness become part of who they are? Or is it just an innocent mistake? Sure and of course there are lovely people and are genuine and can make mistakes. I know I sure mess up even when I’m trying not to. But this is more about people who actually do mean to be, well mean, and gossip, be cruel and plain nasty. People can be mean and horrid with out words too, with an action or lack of action or even a simple look. A look can talk far more than words sometimes. When does that one lie or twisting of the truth become so entrenched into someone’s daily life and speech that their words are all but lies? And then there seems to be no truth left in them where they seem to live unfulfilled and barren lives. My friend is trying to navigate through a difficult time and wanted some advice, help and a sounding board.

I have often joked and said “I’m not the nasty people whisperer”. I can’t wish, will or talk someone out of being mean and nasty by some magical whispering. In the end it is none of my business, if people want to be unkind, nasty, jealous, competitive, gossip or lie about me, my family or friends. Really someone else’s opinion isn’t up to me to be concerned about or want to change. Sure it would be great if everyone was kind to one another. But we live in the real world where some people just want to be nasty no matter what you do or don’t do. They may choose to be your enemy or perhaps behave like the are in battle with you, but you don’t need to join in. All I can do is to give them and their mean spirit, lies, cruelness and nastiness up to God to sort out. I can choose to pray for them to be blessed and guard my heart so I do not let bitterness take away any joy and love God has given me. I am still surprised that people who don’t even know two sides of a situation can adopt a mean spirit toward you, your friend or family because of what someone else has told them half a story. This has happened to me over the years especially as a Pastorswife where you are suppose to be perfect and live up to everyones expectations. Really can anyone person meet someone else’s expectations all of the time? I don’t think so. And it probably wouldn’t be healthy if you could. Has this ever happened to you?

I tried to encourage my friend to genuinely feel compassion for them and I feel so sorry for them. Especially when you see that their lives are messed up and that they are unhappy. Some people do want to cause hurt or pain because that is all they know. If that is all they know then how are they going to change without someone like you or I showing some kindness. Haven’t all of us been messed up one time or another in our lives? When I was in my teens and twenty’s I was a complete mess! Even with the best intentions we too, can upset or hurt to others sometimes without even knowing. Remember if there is someone who is unkind, cruel, nasty or plain mean to you, that they are hurt people, going around wounding and hurting those around them. Sadly it does seem misery does love company. And do you or I want to become apart of the misery group. No way. Sometimes the kindest thing to do is to walk away and leave them to their gossip, assumptions and nastiness. They may or may not know any other way to live. Be thankful and grateful that you do know another way to live and that God has shown you a way to live in the truth of His love. A dose of grace, mercy and love from the Saviour can heal our brokeness so we then in turn can give love, show grace, mercy, kindness and forgive others. In Matthew 6:14 (NIV) says; “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Forgiving benefits us even more than it can benefit or help the person we are forgiving. Isn’t that the way of Jesus? By forgiving we actually receive far more.

Sometimes showing love is keeping the peace and not telling your side of the story. Sometimes it means being quiet and letting people think badly of you when you have done nothing wrong and walk away. Sometimes it is having a direct, awkward and uncomfortable conversation to sort the problem out. And sometimes all you can do is pray and give it all to God. What helped my friend and also what has helped me over the years is realising that satan is the originator of sin and father of lies. And sure some people like to give him a helping hand but often times they get dragged into places they never intended to go. It helps to see the person who is causing the issue as being misused by Satan and if you need to blame someone then go ahead and put the blame on Satan who loves to cause trouble. The important thing is the One person who needs to know the truth, does. God knows you and He knows your heart. God knows the truth of your life. God loves, loves, LOVES you and He has your back. No one is prefect, and we all can live wonderful, happy, joyous, for-filling, and blessed lives with a clear conscience even while dealing with difficult circumstances or people. Paul said in 1 Corinthians 4:4-5 “My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me. Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God.” Stay strong through these trials in this world and look forward to receiving praise from God in heaven. Remember God loves, loves, LOVES you!!!

With love & blessings always
~ Sarah xxx

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Recipe – Minestrone Soup

Love this recipe from food wishes! If you click on the photo you will go directly to the food wishes source. I know you will love it too! Of course I make all my food completely gluten free. I just substitute pasta for gluten free pasta. In the USA I used Canadian bacon as it was leaner than regular bacon. In Australia I use regular GF bacon as it is fairly lean. I also try as best I can to use in season and organic produce. Organic produce can be terribly expensive so we can’t always afford to buy organic all the time. We do our best and that is really all anyone can do. ~ Sarah xxx


3 oz pancetta (or regular bacon)

2 tbsp olive oil
1 diced onion
1 cup diced celery
4 minced garlic cloves
4 cups chicken broth
1 (28-oz) can plum tomatoes, crushed fine
2 cups water, plus more as needed
salt and pepper to taste
1 tsp dried Italian herb blend (mine was thyme, oregano, rosemary, basil)
red pepper flakes to taste
1 cup freshly shucked cranberry beans (aka shelling beans)
2 or 3 cups chopped cabbage
1 (15-oz) can garbanzo beans, drained
1 bunch swiss chard, chopped
2/3 cup raw ditalini pasta
extra virgin olive oil, Parmigiano-Reggiano, and fresh Italian parsley to garnish the top

Giving Thanks

“Thank [God] in everything [no matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks], for this is the will of God for you [who are] in Christ Jesus [the Revealer and Mediator of that will].” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (AMP)


“Oh give thanks to the LORD, for he is good,
for his steadfast love endures forever!
Let the redeemed of the LORD say so,
whom he has redeemed from trouble…

… they cried to the LORD in their trouble,
and he delivered them from their distress.
He sent out his word and healed them,
and delivered them from their destruction.

Let them thank the LORD for his steadfast love,
for his wondrous works to the children of man!
And let them offer sacrifices of thanksgiving,
and tell of his deeds in songs of joy!..

Let them extol him in the congregation of the people,
and praise him in the assembly of the elders…

Whoever is wise, let him attend to these things;
let them consider the steadfast love of the LORD.”

~ Psalm 107 (ESV)

Genuine Concern Or Just Plain Nosy that is the question.

Are you genuinely interested, concerned or just plain nosy about other people?

I enjoy reading my friends and also other people’s blogs. Love blogs about homesteading, family life, christian living, hobbies, farming, and house renovation stories. So is this out of interest or is it plain nosy? Well… I think anyone who blogs publicly is more than happy to share their stuff even if you don’t know them. They want people to be interested in them. So nope I don’t think that is nosy at all, it comes down to motive.

When we went into Ministry I learn’t the hard way that some folk are just plain nosy. Some folk would question my children to find out information about our family, ministry or other people in the church. Of course some folk were genuinely and sincerely concerned. And then there were the others that just wanted to be nosy and have the latest gossip.

There were many times I had to stop speaking in mid sentence because I couldn’t share information. Even simple questions like; have you seen such and such, how is such and such? Often they were loaded questions. For example if I had seen… say, a recently young married couple then people would leap to thinking their marriage was in trouble. Or if I had confirmed that I had visited someone in hospital, then they would know such and such was sick. Many times I would stop mid sentence and say something like “ask such and such next time or aren’t they lovely or such and such makes a fantastic curry.” I had to refine the art of changing the subject and quickly exit without answering their questions. It is difficult not to offend someone when they ask you a direct question. Even if they shouldn’t be asking that question in the first place. Nothing can be more horrid than unwanted nosiness.

Magazines and Television are full of stories about the rich and famous. We don’t know them so in those cases we are being nosy. It is part and parcel of being a Celebrity. They need the media to further their careers and they want people to be interested in them but there is a fine line for them and for us too. Nine times out of ten it is nosiness that is motivating us to want to know what is going on in their lives.

And then there is Facebook. It is a great way to keep in touch with friends in one single profile update rather than phoning or emailing each individual friend. However it can also be a trap or source of information for those nosy friends of friends.

I think a good way to work out the difference between being genuinely interested in someone else and their life is to check your own motives. Do we think, pray, have concern or feelings for the person we are interested in? Do we see that person or have a friendship with them? Do we have contact with that person on a regular basis? Are we wanting the best for that person and their family? If we know they are going well in life are we genuinely happy for them? Or if we know they are struggling are we genuinely concerned? Or are we wanting to compare and contrast their lives, homes, clothes, job or family to our own? Are we wanting to feel superior to them? Or do we have no real feelings for them at all and simply want information about them out of nosiness?

My life is pretty much an open book. In saying that, I do value my privacy just as the next person or blogger. There are things that are only known between Jesus and I. There are things that only my husband will ever know. I have friendships that I value that are over 35 years old and some are as new as a few months old. When we live in community it is normal to develop friendships. There is information shared which is part of getting know someone. There is give and take in sharing our lives with each other. That is not being nosy that is friendship. Having friendships and being a friend can be scary for some people because they can’t hide when they let someone get to know them “warts and all.” When we choose to trust a friend that is a precious gift. Trust can be easily broken but not so easily repaired. So I reckon it is a good idea to look at our motives from time to time and check as to whether we are genuinely concerned for someone or if we are being just plain nosy.

Anyhoo… that’s MTCW (My Two Cents Worth) for today :o) I hope you have a un-nosy and super blessed rest of your day ! ! !